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Monday, March 15, 2010

Mommy Crisis Squared!

Squared refers to the level of stress I walked around with most of the day as a result of my middle school son... because by a certain age you basically have ZERO power, you're between a rock and a hard place with your kids.  They're pretty independent, yet they have the judgement of a rooster!  My 11 almost 12 year old son had me in tears in his guidance counselors office on Friday... one of the very few days I didn't post my blog since beginning in September last year... and that's from an obsessed blogger.
It's a long story... he lost no misplaced (as he often does) something very important which had a time pressure, causing a very LARGE  'ri p  p   l   e effect'  throughout his school from teachers to administrators... people outside of school, appointments I had to cancel... texting, emailing, calling, driving, until finally the 'flood gates' could stand to hold on no more... there I was in his guidance counselors office with tears pouring down my face, glaringly out of place in my sunglasses on such a gray day... she was GREAT, comfortable like a friend, reassuring that this was all normal, that she and many others had been there all to often too... but I was still left with the big question, "Is this a stage or is this who he is?... get used to it sister!    
Don't be fooled...

The good news is that he found what we were looking for in the late morning, but because he lost the charge on his cell phone, he couldn't call me from the bathroom, and his third period teacher wouldn't let him go to the office to call me, until finally his fourth period teacher let him call from her cell phone...
OMG I think I'm reliving it, anyway you get the idea... then everything fell into perspective later that night when I was resting on the couch uncomfortably watching ABCs'  "20/20", Inside The World of Childhood Schizophrenia, about families coping with kids with severe mental illness.
Just imagine when these kids say they want to 'kill their parents' they actually mean it!  My heart goes out to them.  
Kudos to correspondent Jay Schadler, for telling this story with the utmost sensitivity.


  1. wow...whew I'm glad it all was resolved!! The panic and stress you're describing sounds like me, and mine's only 7. When she hits middle school, I may run away to the woods for a few years LOL

  2. Man I don't think I could watch that 20/20, so sad!

  3. He is so adorable : ) I am not looking forward to the teenage years for one second. Not one second.

  4. Ugh! I feel your pain. My oldest child is 15 years old is officially a high schooler. That alone is enough to make any mother cringe, but add to the fact that he has ADHD and is very forgetful and well...I'm pretty stressed out most of the time when it comes to him. lol
    Motherhood sure is a wonderful journey. Stress, tears and everything in between. :) Congrats on being the featured blogger over at SITS. It's so great to meet you.

    Kristi, Live and Love...Out Loud